For some reason, we grow up thinking effective communication should be easy. Is it?
We’re told listening is twice as important as talking because we have two ears and only one mouth. While that may be true, who’s teaching how to listen effectively?
Too often we hear or see our own memories or expectations instead of the real message and intention of the other person. And when you consider that the other person / party may also be unknowingly in the same trap …
Take care with communication. You may not be hearing the voice you think you are
You can be certain that, like it or not, you will be making sizeable contributions to your employer, your bank and your government as you go, trading time, toil and income toward their pursuits.
What are you investing in yourself?
Stop and sit sometimes. Consider whose dream you’re really trading your life for.
In considering who or what to follow, or whether to step up and take the lead, ask yourself: What’s the truth behind how you found or followed your way into any darkness in the first place? How has that served you? What needs to change?
Your path = your choice.
On the Power of Music to Bring Light to a Soul, a City & the World: It’s Alfredo Caxaj, Artistic Director of Sunfest (No Schedule Man Podcast – Episode 8)
In this most recent episode of the No Schedule Man Podcast, Kevin talks with Alfredo Caxaj, the Executive and Artistic Director of Sunfest, a name that belongs both to one of the premier outdoor festivals in Canada (which takes place in London, ON every July), and a year-round world music concert series and non-profit community arts organization.
In this conversation, Alfredo reflects on how he and his family found themselves uprooted from Guatemala in the 1980’s, what challenges they faced as they tried to adapt, and how he managed to follow his passion for music into what has become one of the premier world music festivals anywhere on the globe.
Alfredo’s story is honest, touching and inspiring. The results of his efforts (and those around him, as part of the Sunfest group) have touched and empowered countless lives in Canada and around the world. Visiting with him was an absolute joy and I couldn’t be more grateful to share even a little bit of this wonderful man with you. Enjoy.
Special thanks to Allstage for their support of the No Schedule Man podcast!
Some of us were a lot more tenacious as children. We’d dream up something that we wanted, or aspired to be, and then, largely driven by our imaginations, we’d go after it. We didn’t pay nearly as much attention to perceived initial obstacles. We just knew what we wanted and would start moving forward.
Along the way, we seem to acquire the ability of doubting ourselves even before we start. We learn to think, “this will never work because,” or “responsible people don’t do that because” or any number of excuses that paralyze us into inaction. But those are just someone else’s ideas that we’ve accepted and agreed to along the way.
What do you really want? And when you think of it, honestly, what’s the first thought that pops into your mind as to whether or not it’s possible? Is it a solution, a new path, or an obstacle and another excuse not to try?
What would the child-like version of you have done with the idea? Give it some thought, at least for a little while …
The analogies are endless, like driving through the darkness: with your headlights on, you can only see the next little bit in front of you, but that’s enough to allow you to keep moving forward.
Wherever even the smallest of shadows are cast, there must be light somewhere. If you can see it, it can see you.
Keep going. The waves will calm eventually.
Fear is firm but love is stronger.
One day, we’ll get it through our minds that love is a better way. Always. In all ways.
There is peace in being fully present, mindful and grateful in the moment. And there is joy and exhilaration in feeling challenged and charged to pursue something new.
The real trick is to keep a balance between the two.
So often we feel the need to change because we think we “should.” But when we feel inclined to move forward because of a deep, soul-and-spirit level inspiration, that’s as good a reason as any to spread our wings.
As optimistic as any of us are or wish to be, life will inevitably take dark turns at times. Those are the opportunities when you’re truly faced with a choice of what you want to believe deep in your soul.
Light just one candle in a dark room and more of it will be revealed. But if you choose to focus on the darkness, chances are it will seem deeper and that you’ll feel you’re getting more of it. Even in brutally tough times, you always have the choice.
This lyric is from a song called “Over and Over.”
This lyric is actually from a song I never completely finished, and have yet to give a proper title. But it has been one of my favourites since the moment it appeared.
There are so many massive challenges in our world that it can feel overwhelming to consider. It’s easy to think that we’re insignificant compared to some of the issues plaguing our planet. But as individuals, we matter. We matter to ourselves, and to anyone we come across today. And often the thing that lifts up someone else is a much more humble endeavour than we might first have thought necessary.
I’ve come to believe that’s the only place where positive change can really start and grow. So do what you can, for you and those around you. It matters more than we may ever know.
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